Comments on: Loving Your Blended Family http://www.spiritualwellness.com/blog/loving-your-blended-family/ Mon, 30 Jan 2012 20:45:17 +0000 hourly 1 By: Tina http://www.spiritualwellness.com/blog/loving-your-blended-family/comment-page-1/#comment-159 Tina Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:54:41 +0000 http://www.spiritualwellness.com/?p=280#comment-159 Great post, Angie! What an interesting topic to explore. Great post, Angie! What an interesting topic to explore.

]]> By: Jan-Michael http://www.spiritualwellness.com/blog/loving-your-blended-family/comment-page-1/#comment-158 Jan-Michael Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:54:21 +0000 http://www.spiritualwellness.com/?p=280#comment-158 I grew up believing there was just my Mum, my Dad and my one sister and me, all happily living in Canada, having moved here from England when my sister and I were very young children. Not that anyone lied to me, but the idea that there were other siblings never came up and I guess there was no reason to bring up a sad time in my Dad's life. Then, when I was about twenty, a distant relative came to Canada on business and he brought a message for my Dad that his daughter from an earlier marriage wanted to know if she might be welcome to contact my Dad! Wow, another sister; when, where, why invisable, why no mention of her before? Well, the details of my Dad's first marriage and lack of contact from a daughter until her Mother passed away, are not important. But I finally met my other sister, 22 years older than I. Before she passed away herself at age 79 we developed a close relationship! And, her boys, my nephews are very close with me though they live in England. The new sister and her boys and I found so much in common as individuals; interests, perspectives on Faith, interest in nature and music, etc. My (full)sister in Canada had no interest in the new sister nor new nephews but we all have different roads to walk and I remain close with my sister, though never have been as close in thoughts and interests as I am with my English family. For the most part we do not talk about the extended family in England as that is something that I embraced and accepted one way, my sister here in Canada could never accept any of it without bitterness. We all must find our way and I guess accept that it is not the same for everyone. As the movie of the same title portrayed, "It's Complicated" and I think, for all life is complicated. But if we can accept that life can be as Storms; it can be harsh but also make the Flowers grow and Rainbows, we can be happy with the positives and let the harsh aspects get washed away in the rain! He Blesses all Jan-Michael I grew up believing there was just my Mum, my Dad and my one sister and me, all happily living in Canada, having moved here from England when my sister and I were very young children. Not that anyone lied to me, but the idea that there were other siblings never came up and I guess there was no reason to bring up a sad time in my Dad’s life.

Then, when I was about twenty, a distant relative came to Canada on business and he brought a message for my Dad that his daughter from an earlier marriage wanted to know if she might be welcome to contact my Dad!

Wow, another sister; when, where, why invisable, why no mention of her before?

Well, the details of my Dad’s first marriage and lack of contact from a daughter until her Mother passed away, are not important. But I finally met my other sister, 22 years older than I. Before she passed away herself at age 79 we developed a close relationship!

And, her boys, my nephews are very close with me though they live in England. The new sister and her boys and I found so much in common as individuals; interests, perspectives on Faith, interest in nature and music, etc.

My (full)sister in Canada had no interest in the new sister nor new nephews but we all have different roads to walk and I remain close with my sister, though never have been as close in thoughts and interests as I am with my English family. For the most part we do not talk about the extended family in England as that is something that I embraced and accepted one way, my sister here in Canada could never accept any of it without bitterness.

We all must find our way and I guess accept that it is not the same for everyone. As the movie of the same title portrayed, “It’s Complicated” and I think, for all life is complicated.

But if we can accept that life can be as Storms; it can be harsh but also make the Flowers grow and Rainbows, we can be happy with the positives and let the harsh aspects get washed away in the rain!

He Blesses all
Jan-Michael

]]> By: cysradill http://www.spiritualwellness.com/blog/loving-your-blended-family/comment-page-1/#comment-157 cysradill Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:53:46 +0000 http://www.spiritualwellness.com/?p=280#comment-157 as I read your post Angie what I find happening is that a lot of us have lost our way. People have found it easier to run away from their marriage vows and the 10 conmandments . They find another partner and say their vows again . Make another home and leave their children to adjust and find away to love and respect and have loyalty now to two familys . all with different values and ideas. When we choose to be in Gods family we know it is one family. and will always be. Even when we try to run away and hide from Gods family. We know if we work hard and value him we can be back in his family. He forives us. And that is lacking in alot of marriages is forgiveness. I have been married 53 years and my parents were 66yrs. There has been alot of hard times, But I usually refer to my vows I said in the presence of Lord. And then talk to the Lord and my husband and there has to be away to work it out and so far there has been. God Bless Everyone And keep on been loving and respectfull to each . as I read your post Angie what I find happening is that a lot of us have lost our way. People have found it easier to run away from their marriage vows and the 10 conmandments . They find another partner and say their vows again . Make another home and leave their children to adjust and find away to love and respect and have loyalty now to two familys .
all with different values and ideas.
When we choose to be in Gods family we know it is one family.
and will always be. Even when we try to run away and hide from Gods family. We know if we work hard and value him we can be back in his family. He forives us. And that is lacking in alot of marriages is forgiveness. I have been married 53 years and my parents were 66yrs. There has been alot of hard times, But I usually refer to my vows I said in the presence of Lord. And then talk to the Lord and my husband and there has to be away to work it out and so far there has been.
God Bless Everyone And keep on been loving and respectfull to each .

]]> By: Rose http://www.spiritualwellness.com/blog/loving-your-blended-family/comment-page-1/#comment-156 Rose Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:53:10 +0000 http://www.spiritualwellness.com/?p=280#comment-156 Not an easy question Angie. - Everybody has the rigt to be treated well. Family or not. I know it gives to severe parents (mine) poisoning the air with their treatments and behavier. Me as their only child not at all easy. So be nice to eachother even when you don't agree with others opinions. Blessings Rose Not an easy question Angie. – Everybody has the rigt to be treated well. Family or not. I know it gives to severe parents (mine) poisoning the air with their treatments and behavier. Me as their only child not at all easy. So be nice to eachother even when you don’t agree with others opinions. Blessings Rose

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