Spiritual Wellness

Do you have trouble building intimacy in your relationships? Are wounds from previous relationships standing in the way? If so, you may need to release a soul tie.

God designed our souls to stick. We can stick to our spouse, our parents and children.  We can stick to God.  We can even stick to our life’s purpose.  A soul tie happens when we intimately connect with others. Whether near or far, we feel mentally and emotionally connected to them.  Our souls are tied together.

If we trust God to meet our physical and emotional needs, then we are able to form healthy soul ties. We can raise our children, and then launch them when they are grown.  We can date people, and then stick to our spouse for a lifetime.

When we depend on people, rather than God, then we will develop unhealthy soul ties. Unhealthy soul ties develop when we expect people to meet our deepest needs.  Only God is able to meet our needs.

An unhealthy soul tie is like masking tape. If you place masking tape on a sweater, it sticks.  If you remove the tape and place it elsewhere, it’s less sticky.  If this process continues, the tape loses all stickiness.

If we repeatedly form unhealthy bonds, it will eventually keep us from connecting in good and healthy ways. Unhealthy soul ties hinder our ability to build intimacy.

Consider a parent and child. This relationship requires a close bond. However, that bond is intended to change over time. If children don’t learn to receive nurture and guidance from God, they will continually seek to derive this from their parents. In turn, it will hurt their romantic relationships.  They are unable to stick to their spouse.

This also happens in dating. Many people date in order to feel validated and secure. To meet these needs, people engage in sexual promiscuity.  Sex is one of the greatest mechanisms we have for sticking together.  Sex is designed to help us stick together in marriage.  When we have sex outside of God’s intended purpose, it can negatively affect our future marriage.  We may have difficulty sticking to our spouse.

Are you able to create healthy soul ties? Do you trust in God to meet your physical and emotional needs?  Or, does depending on people leave you trapped in unhealthy soul ties?

If you need God to release an unhealthy soul tie, pray this prayer:

Jesus, please forgive me for depending on others before you. I was wrong. I place you first in my life. Please remove the unhealthy bond I’ve created with (insert name). Forgive me for (insert the unhealthy behaviors and thoughts). Please cleanse and restore my soul. Please bind my soul to you. Amen.

Have you ever experienced an unhealthy soul tie?  What did this experience teach you about Spiritual Wellness?

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