Comments on: Honest Friendships

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[...] Rally the Troops: Last year, I set 3 goals for the year. I achieved the first two goals because I had the right support system. But, I never achieved my third goal. I’m convinced it’s because I didn’t rally the troops. Most of our goals require a support system that will help us sustain positive change – church, AA, therapy or a good friend. [...]

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By: Bob Hamp

Bob Hamp — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:57:11 +0000

Angie, I’d like to give you some honest feedback about this post. It was excellent. It is all the more excellent because, after living life with you for a few years, I know this post is true of you. You both offer and receive honest feedback and have always done so in love and honor. Thanks for sharing chica!

By: cysradill

cysradill — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:56:50 +0000

Hi: Angie A true and honest friendship is one of the most valuable thing you can have. And in a life time most people will have maybe one or two. Friendship that is true and honest is something you have to work at like a marriage. You go through bad times and good times with them and value their opinion. They are someone you can laugh,cry and vent with and sometimes we have just sat quietly and not said a word.and your soul feels comfort just from their presence. Like when you pray and feel God is near. The Golden Rule and your attitude are very important. I find that so true and the tone of your voice. Sometimes they are saying things about someone but they do not always want you to agree . It is their loved one and they are venting as I call it. And if they say please do not tell anyone you do not tell their secret. You can talk to God and get his advice but thats all. You have given your word. And that is sacred.

God Bless Everyone Cysradill

By: Cate

Cate — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:56:29 +0000

This was such a great read! I am always so committed to calm tone and timing and permission or being asked for the feedback. It’s not easy when your heart so desperately wants clarity for the other person. I am praying for some friendships like you talked about in my own life right now! So good

By: Angie

Angie — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:56:11 +0000

J-M, You are so very clever! CATNAP! Ha! I love it! Thank you.

By: Jan-Michael

Jan-Michael — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:55:48 +0000

Once Upon a Time… Jan-Michael (ME) had a friend pouring out to him, their frustration, disappointmrnt and anger with a situation.

Jan-Michael (ME) connected to the anguish and interrupted with his (MY) similar onetime problem and the solution! That was a Bad Idea!

I had been guilty of offering-up advice that was not really being sought after! The friend was really just talking out loud (mostly trying to find their own solution). And no, the person’s response was not too good.

I had wrongly jumped in, too anxious to try to calm their distress as I perceived it!

I then realized how I was no longer following that cardinal rule we learned as toddlers and as we taught our own children:

<<<<<<>>>>>>

Then and only then it is safe to proceed across the road or to speak. That simple wise lesson seems applicable to mostly everything!

Every situation has so many aspects and only some parts of our own experiences and solutions may apply.

I loved your points, Angie, which I have made to the anagram “CATNAP” to think and pause before I open my mouth :

C Commitment
A Attitude
T Timing
N Now
A Ask
P Permission

It is hard to hold one’s tongue when a friend is hurting and this anagram made from your words will help keep me more patient with my premature thoughts at times.

Blessings to all and those off to The Holy Land soon I think, do have a wonderful time!

Jan-Michael

By: Rose

Rose — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 21:55:25 +0000

Honest and true friends are wonderful but seldom to find. Real friends should share everything with us and we with them. – I knew ones a lady she wanted my friendship. At the end I have had to find out she just needed someone to go on vacation with her. When she didn’t needed me anymore she begung to be dishonest with me and pushed me away. — I always give my feedback, if they do not want one they can tell it to me. Of course my attitueds are just a hint for others and my experiences too. The conversation always should be nice and calm, never shouting to others that only brings frustration and strive. – Blessings, Rose