Holy Sheets!
Posted on 12. Jan, 2011 by Angie Wyatt in Blog
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The stuff that happens between those thin layers of cotton is entirely spiritual. Yes, I mean sex. You are completely integrated as a sexual and spiritual being. That’s why I advocate an ancient spiritual practice called abstinence. Now that’ll make you say “Holy Sheets!”
Sex outside of marriage is like playing with fire. It’s where we learn the games that damage our future, committed relationships. We learn games like, “How to Turn Off Your Heart” and “How to Manipulate Your Man.”
Choosing abstinence doesn’t mean that you’re sexually insecure. You don’t have to “kiss dating goodbye.” It’s not reserved for the unattractive, desperate or any other stereotype that comes to mind. Instead, it requires self-awareness and results in Spiritual Wellness.
Sex intensifies your romantic relationships. Good sex makes you vulnerable and bonded to your partner. When you’re married and committed (before God), then it’s safe to have an intense, vulnerable and bonded relationship. You know where the relationship is headed. There’s certainty and trust. Abstinence keeps your spirituality and sexuality between you and God. It’s holy.
Abstinence helps us become the people we are destined to be, because it requires:
Sexual maturity. People who choose abstinence know their sexual self, independent of another individual. They know their sexual boundaries and they know how to responsibly manage their sexuality.
Spiritual Focus. Choosing abstinence requires a focus on God. We mustn’t choose abstinence because we have some fantasy about Mr. Right. We choose abstinence because right now, in this present moment, my spiritual connection to God is more important that my sexual desires.
What do you think? How do we keep holy sheets?
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Anna
12. Jan, 2011
Well said. I love the photo you picked.
aL
12. Jan, 2011
I was passing through during my dinner break, and thought this was an interesting article. And, I also agree with Ann, love your photo…
“Holy sheets…”
But, was also wondering on if there are any surveys of people that actually practice abstinence. And, if people in religion should take abstinence vows(priest, nuns, etc…)…and with-out going to far, also regarding in general of self pleasure, in the sexual context of its abstinence.
I have always question those aspects, and why God created the sexual gratification to be so desirable in humans(leaving out the formula of re-production)
Not sure, about those aspects in the bible, but am sure regarding its abstinence prior to marriage. And that Love
is essential for any successful marriage long-term. My feelings are that people get to caught up in these aspects, in which, can damage the person(s) and others further.
A lot of issues can develop long term in the marriage, of being lustful, deceitful, and its faithfulness…an interesting scripture I read was in St. Mark: Chapter 4 vs. 19
It applies into a lot of aspects…But, what about these other related aspects…I guess, we all have to find our own comfort zones and to stay true to God and ourselves. (know thyself)
Angie, Thank you for your insightful blog…It is very interesting.
Al
12. Jan, 2011
Was thinking on your article statement: “Abstinence keeps your spirituality and sexuality between you and God. It’s holy.”
In reading that statement I got confused is sex to be Holy? Perhaps, I would look at the God relationship as a whole, as its God relationship is to be Holy.
However, not sure, if I would consider sex or its sexuality to be Holy. The marriage is to be Holy, but not sure on sexual commitments.
The sexual connection(at least for my part) is between man and women in that love connection. I just have a hard time with thinking about sexuality as a holy path?
With that stated, abstinence in my view, should perhaps be viewed or considered as a commitment to God. And there again, I question the Holy abstinence statement and or other holy vows(priest, nuns, etc)
As humans, I think we are destine to fail. (as referenced in the above post)
And would draw the conclusion to keep true to myself and with God. Love and marriage are to be Holy. I just can’t picture God watching the sexual part…lol
A few twist and turns that reveal the true and realistic side, of me, as I further pondered on your article.
I think the relationship with God is to be Holy…
Al
12. Jan, 2011
One last viewpoint, “Abstinence keeps your spirituality and sexuality between you and God. It’s holy.”
Perhaps, you meant to keep it pure? But, still question its sexual lovemaking part. Between man and women?
Marriage with God is to be Holy…I guess I dont know, I just cant see God in the sexual Holy part…lol
Jan-Michael
13. Jan, 2011
Yes Angie,
I agree with abstinance until a couple have entered a commitment of marriage. But to qualify that statement, for me I mean a commitment, be it to a common law union or full wedding marriage as ordinarily understood or otherwise. The fact of a fully legal marriage is not entirely necessary for me. The trust and commitment however is important for me. I say this recognizing the difficulty or denial of some couple’s right to become married, due to circumstances or common gender.
I do find it interesting that in Canada at least, a ” fully legal marriage” is only such when performed by a justice of the peace or clergy or “ship’s captain” etc, all of whom and only when, they have been trained in the laws of the land. It is not the fact of being a priest or pastor alone in itself, in Canada, that makes the marriage fully legal. Clergy’s or other’s responsibilitities and training do not sanction a person to perform a wedding, but rather it is their training in marriage law and acceptance by law of the land as a person legally able to perform a marriage ceremony albeit they have completed other training for other purposes in a church, community or otherwise.
In Canada. a common-law marriage confers virtually all the legal rights and responsibilities of a full marriage performed , after a period of time, generally after between two and seven years or less
I do believe abstinance prior to “marriage” makes for a special, more wonderful bond between the couple.
He is Blessing all, always
J-M
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Kelly
09. Feb, 2011
Hello! Abstinence is possible when the individual is committed to the reasons for remaining that way. I had been married for almost twenty years when divorcing due yo his adiltry and physical abuse. I have remained abstinence throughout the 14 years I have been single. It is possible, you just have to be committed
Swiss Rose
30. Aug, 2011
Well said Angie. I want to respond to your last paragraph and expressing my thoughts. – Spiritual connection is always important. I think before and in a marriage. If somebody is never married and I’m not and will not be in the future, so I practice my spiritual connection to God on my own or I can evt. too with another faithful person. In a marriage I can do it with my partener/husband. I personally make a difference with spiritual and sex. Hope you will see what I mean! Sex is to be melted in one with my partener and spiritual is connected with God and Heaven. How can a child practice spiritul connection to God? – Blessings, Rose
Jonah
14. Sep, 2011
Good post, well said. It is true. The humor and wit keeps it fresh and yet serious. I learned the hard way about the games that you mentioned. It is like playing with fire. I agree that sex is sacred and should be experienced only in the container of a committed relationship (i.e marriage). I wish I had understood that earlier in my life.