Spiritual Wellness

Love. It grows from interest to friendship to just plain hot.  Love is fun.  Love is enticing.  Love is thrilling.  And, it all starts with a little wink and a smile.  Our flirtations hint at our interest.  And, that’s the fun… it’s just a clue … and we wonder, Will this be my true love?

While it seems innocent enough, we all know of women who make a muck out of flirting.  They take this harmless little exchange and turn into a competition.  That’s when flirting gets dangerous.  Because … LOVE IS NOT A GAME.  When it is a game, its not really love.  So, is flirting only for fools and mean girls? Should we give up on our little spark? Do we toss flirting to the wind?

Flirting and spirituality are not mutually exclusive.  With God’s love in our heart, flirting is not a game.  Instead, its fun and sexy, but also authentic and pure.  I call this Flirting with Love.

3 Rules for Flirting with Love:

Don’t Lie: Only show interest in men that you really are interested in.  You can flirt with more than one guy, but just keep it real.  It’s unkind to lead someone on.  When we flirt with men we don’t really like, then it signals a problem within us.  It indicates that we need affirmation and acceptance.  Only insecure women flirt with men they don’t really like.  Don’t flirt in order to feel better about yourself.  Instead, keep your flirting honest.

Don’t Be That Girl: You know those girls who flirt because they are competitive with other women?  Don’t be that girl!  Some women want to prove that they are sexier and more alluring than every other woman in the room.  The best way to make this point is by gaining the intention of men.  This is playing a game with both men and women.  Love is not a game.  Flirting with love means never flirting in order to lord your seductive powers over another woman.

Don’t Lead with Your Lady Parts: We all loved Elle Wood’s “bend and snap” routine.  Keep in mind that it wasn’t meant to be taken seriously.  There are a million other ways to flirt with class:  style, intellect, eye contact, smiles, and the list goes on.  When you lead with our lady parts, you send the wrong signals and attract the wrong men.  Do you want to fall in love?  Then you need to flirt with love.  Love means that a man adores you for much more than your lady parts.  He loves your humor, intellect and values.  Make sure he knows you’ve got those too.

Next time you start to flirt, remember to Flirt with Love!

A note to my male readers:  Pay attention to the girls who flirt with love.  They are the ones who know how to truly love you in return.

(featuring original illustration by artist Brittany Scott)

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